Why Would A Deceased Beloved Not Make A Dream Visit?
My beloved husband passed away a couple months ago. Although everyone says he will come visit me in my dreams, so far nothing has happened. Another friend of his recently had a dream visit from him. Why would he go to them before he came and visited me?
— Mrs. E.
Dear Mrs. E.,
I am so glad that you wrote to me. Heartfelt condolences, friend. This is an important question that I often hear from folks like yourself who have lost a loved one. There can be much frustration and confusion from not being able to communicate with the departed in ways that we are used to. It’s the same from the other side; spirits sometimes feel like no one here is listening or paying attention! All we need to do is be willing to understand and learn that there are new ways to communicate.
Once a soul leaves the corporeal body, it passes through the tunnel of light leading to the other side, experiences a life review and then there is usually a period of re-acclimation. Some souls leave the body, and their Earth life behind easier than others. Since time does not exist in the spirit world, to them it can seem like 5 minutes has passed, while to you and I it may literally be more like 5 months. Sometimes loved ones will immediately be able to materialize or come in dream visits to let you know they are OK. In other cases, dream visits never happen. Instead, different forms of communication are subtly taking place right before our eyes and we just need to know what to watch for. Which form of contact you get has nothing to do with being good or more deserving. Our loved ones are doing the best they can and may even be busy adjusting to their new realm of existence. It is absolutely not a statement of them no longer loving you. Love is eternal.
Besides coming to us in dreams, loved ones, angels and our guides can also communicate to us through manipulation of energy. This is often their easiest form of reaching out to us, as they exist in the realm of pure energy. One of the more common contacts is through tapping or clicking. You might hear a tapping on the window pane when nothing is “there” to explain it, or you may get clicking on the phone line when you are using it. You may smell a hint of their after shave in the air or their favorite brand of tobacco. Some people experience the sensation of someone sitting on their bed at night. You may also be filled with a sense of knowing that you are being helped through something or that it was made easier for you. The more you take notice and appreciate these types of subtle moments, the more you will draw in their energy.